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This
should mean that no matter what theme is chosen, you
should always focus on providing them with positively
influenced support. The point of a divorce party is
to facilitate healing, not to do things that will make
them feel worse about themselves. We will cover some
Do's and Don't further down this page..
When To Have A Divorce Party
It is always best to wait until the divorce is final.
Up until that point, it is still up in the air as to
what will happen from child custody issues, living arrangements
and even a possible reconciliation. Make sure to respect
the transitional and grieving process and have the party
when it is time to focus on the next chapter of their
lives.
The Theme
The tone of the party should be based on the comfort
levels of the newly single. Some prefer a quiet girls
night in, while others might prefer a wild release.
Make sure that whatever the divorcée wants for
a theme is what is done. This is not a party for the
guests, rather it is for the guest of honor and consulting
with them will be important. That is why this should
not be a surprise party.
Choose
a theme based on what is a positive association for
the new divorcée . Choose their favorite colors,
style of music and even things like their favorite scented
candles and foods.
Some of the popular divorce themes are -
- Survivor-
such as a cast away that returns home.
- Butterfly-
symbolizes transformation.
- Lemons-
When life hands you lemons, you make lemonade.
- Naughty
Girl-
For the more wild, with sexy costumes and fun sexual
themes.
- Getaway-
This
is when the guests take the new divorcée on
a fun trip for a vacation. While Las Vegas is a very
popular destination, there are also great spa retreats
all over the world for a time of pampering and pleasure.
The Guests
After a divorce, it may be tricky as to whom to invite.
The best course of action is to make sure you ask the
divorcée as to whom they are comfortable with having
and let the guests decide for themselves as to whether
or not they are coming. Guests should all be people
who care about the person getting divorce and who will
bring a positive vibe to the party.
Make
sure to avoid having children, especially the children
of those getting divorced. It is not appropriate for
them to have this emotional experience no matter the
situation. This is about a party for the dissolution
of a partnership not a family. Also
avoid inviting work colleagues, unless they are very
close friends as it is not a good idea to bring your
dirty laundry into the office.
If
you have a couples divorce party where both of the partners
getting divorced attend, do not be surprised if not
many guests show up. It is a scary proposition for many
people to come to something that they may perceive as
sad and painful. That is not to say that you should
not have one, rather it is to be realistic and understanding
of those guests that feel it is just too much for them
to deal with emotionally. One tip may be to send an
invitation that is from the both of you and explain
what the focus will be with a positive message encouraging
people to come and support you both during this life
change.
Ultimately
the guest list should be up to the new divorcée
based on their comfort levels for cutting lose in front
of specific guests. After all, this is about letting
go... not putting on social graces to impress.
Bring Gifts
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It
does not have to be a formal process such as a
gift registry, but it should be something that
the guests do. After all, this is one of the most
stressful thing a person will do in their life
and giving them a little gift is a nice gesture.
However,
if a person lost many of their their possessions
in the divorce, it can be beneficial to register.
If you want to get them something like a sex toy,
but are not sure what they would like you can
always get them an adult gift
card that allows them to choose.
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Sexual
Gifts - Make Sure They Are Nontoxic
If
you do decide to get the guest of honor a sex toy, make
sure that it is nontoxic as there are many on the market
today that contain phthalates which are not safe. Sex
toys are not regulated as carefully by the FDA as they
are classified as novelties. HolisticWisdom.com
is one of the only sex toy companies online that offers
only nontoxic products so that no matter what you purchase
you know what you are getting is safe. They have all
kinds of other products to pamper and a great deal of
helpful information about sexuality for enhancing pleasure
for the single gal as well as couples. For a mix of
novelty gifts and safe sex toys along with party supplies,
check out FruitsofEden.com.
Things To Avoid
- We
highly discourage any party where excessive
drinking or drug use is going to occur as this most
definitely can be a recipe for disaster. Below we
will cover divorce party tips to help make your party
a success.
- Do
not bring people to the party for the divorcée
to hook up with. This is about celebrating independence,
not a one night stand or date night.
- Do
not video tape or photograph this unless the divorcée
requests it and do not share any pictures online or
with anyone. This should be a private event and one
that is for the experience, not the memories.
- Do
not make any attempts to prank the divorcée
's ex. This is a party of empowerment, not revenge.
- Do
not burn wedding pictures of anything that children
of the divorce may want someday.
- Do
not destroy the divorce papers, you may need those
for legal purposes at some point.
- Do
not put down marriage in general, rather chalk it
up to this just being something that was not right
for the divorcée and focus more on the positive
things they will focus on now.
Things To Do
- Have
a burning ceremony where the divorcée burns
the marriage certificate or have the divorcée
write down things they will not miss and want to say
good-bye to and then burn it in a safe manner to symbolize
letting go. If you cannot burn, you can bury, flush
or even shred.
- Play
fun, empowering music with good divorce themes.
- Pay
fun games that encourage laughter. See adult
party games.
Divorce Party Drinks
You
can make a divorce party even more fun by having themed
cocktails, a wine tasting and even drinks with funny
names like-
- The
Divorce -
3 oz Ginger Ale, 3 oz Wildberry
Schnapps
- Screw
You -
1 oz.Kahlua, 2 oz Strawberry
Liqueur, 1 oz Vodka - serve with lime.
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Sex On The Beach -
0.5 full Cranberry juice, 0.75
oz. Peach Schnapps, 0.5 full Pineapple Juice, 1 oz.
Vodka
- What
The Hell -
1 oz. Hiram Walker Apricot Brandy,
1 oz. Gin, 1 dash Lemon juice, 1 oz. dry Vermouth
- Kamikaze
-
1 oz Lime juice, 1 oz Hiram
Walker Triple Sec, 1 oz Vodka
- Cosmopolitan
-
1 oz Cointreau, 3 oz Cranberry
juice, 0.5 oz Lemon juice, 1 slice Lime, 2 oz Vodka
-
Irish Car Bomb -
1 pint Guinness Beer, 1 shot
Bailey Irish Cream, 1 shot Jameson Rye / Whiskey
- Redheaded
Slut -
1 splash Cranberry juice, 0.5
oz Peach Schnapps, 0.75 oz Jagermeister
- Alabama
Slammer -
1 oz Hiram Walker Amaretto,
3 oz Orange juice, 1 oz Hiram Walker Sloe gin, 1 oz
Southern Comfort
-
Slap A DA Balls -
4 oz Lemonade, 2 oz lemon vodka,
serve
with 2
balls of cantaloupe
Divorce Cake Ideas
There are many funny and symbolic things you can do
when putting together a divorce cake. From homemade
to a fine piece of art, you can do something along with
a specific theme, color scheme and even something shocking.
We
have provided you with some Divorce
Cake Ideas.
Divorce
Themed Movies & Music
Divorce Movies & Breakup Movies:
- First
Wives Club
- Le
Divorce
- War
of the Roses
- Waiting
to Exhale
- Eat,
Pray, Love
- Under
the Tuscan Sun
- Heartburn
- It's
Complicated
- Something's
Gotta Give
- Nights
in Rodanthe
- Baby
Boom
- Mrs.
Doubtfie
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- Forgetting
Sarah Marshall
- Parenthood
- Must
Love Dogs
- Erin
Brockovich
- My
Best Friend's Wedding
- Something
to Talk About
- Sleeping
with the Enemy
- America's
Sweethearts
- Broadcast
News
- Better
Off Dead
- Death
Becomes Her
- Overboard
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- Music
and Lyrics
- One
Fine Day
- The
Wedding Singer
- Boys
on the Side
- 500
Days of Summer
- The
Bridges of Madison County
- Working
Girl
- Private
Benjamin
- Titanic
- Pleasantville
- Fear
- He's
Just Not That Into You
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Divorce
Songs & Breakup Songs Party Playlist:
- I
Will Survive - Gloria Gaynor
- Love
Stinks - The J. Geils Band
- Good-bye
To You - Scandal
- 50
Ways To Leave Your Lover - Paul Simon
- Hit
The Road, Jack - Shirley Horn
- You're
So Vain, Let the River Run & Coming Around
Again- Carly Simon
- Sisters
Are Doin' It For Themselves - Aretha Franklin
- I
Don't Care About You - Guns N' Roses
- Idiot
Wind - Bob Dylan
- I
Hope You Die - The Bloodhound Gang
- Happy
Trails - Van Halen
- The
Thrill Is Gone - B.B. King
- Time
For Me To Fly - REO Speedwagon
- I'm
Free - Rolling Stones
- Whatever
Will Be, Will Be (Que Sera, Sera) - Doris
Day
- Here's
A Quarter (Call Someone Who Cares) - Travis
Tritt
- Jive
Talkin' - Bee Gees
- Let's
Call The Whole Thing Off - Louis Armstrong
- Lonesome
Loser - Little River Band
- Separate
Ways (Worlds Apart) - Journey
-
Ironic & You Oughta Know - Alanis Morrisette
- Poison
- Alice Cooper
- Little
Bird - Annie Lennox
- Respect
- Aretha Franklin
- You
Ain't Seen Nothing Yet & Takin' Care of
Business - Bachman-Turner Overdrive
- You
Gotta Fight For Your Right To Party - Beastie
Boys
- Nothin
From Nothin - Billy Preston
- Everybody
Wants You - Billy Squier
- Bad
Reputation - Joan Jett / Blackhearts
- Bounce
& You Give Love A Bad Name - Bon Jovi
- All
or Nothin At All- Bruce Springsteen
- Fuck
You - Cee Lo Green
- Fighter,
Beautiful & Dirrty - Christina Aguilera
- Nobody's
Fool & Don't Know What You Got - Cinderella
- Brick
House - The Commodores
- Who's
Sorry Now - Connie Frances
- Never
Surrender - Corey Hart
- Girls
Just Want To Have Fun, She Bop & I Don't
Want To Be Your Friend - Cyndi Lauper
- Bad
Day - Daniel Powter
- I
Can't Go For That - Daryll Hall & John
Oates
- I
Hear Ya Knocking - Dave Edmunds
- Survivor
- Destiny's Child
- Good-bye
Earl & Let ER Rip - Dixie Chicks
- Intentional
Heartache - Dwight Yoakam
- Don't
Bring Me Down - ELO (Electric Light Orchestra)
- Don't
Stop & Go Your Own Way - Fleetwood Mac
- We
Are The Champions & The Show Must Go On
- Queen
- Wasted
Days & Wasted Nights - Freddie Fender
- Crazy
- Gnarls Barkley
- Who
Will You Run To - Heart
- What
A Feeling - Irene Cara
- Looking
For A New Love - Jody Watley
- Naughty
Naughty - John Parr
- Leave
(Get Out) - JoJo
- You've
Got Another Thing Coming - Judas Priest
- Love's
Been A Little Bit Hard On Me & It's A Heartache
- Juice Newton
- The
Lover's Are Losing - Keane
- I
Can't Stay - The Killers
- Poker
Face & Teeth - Lady Gaga
- I
Hope You Dance - Lee Ann Womack
- You
Don't Own Me - Lesley Gore
- You're
No Good - Linda Rodstadt
- All
Cried Out - Lisa Lisa
- Tainted
Love - Marilyn Manson
- Harder
To Breathe - Maroon 5
- He
Thinks He'll Keep Her, I Feel Lucky & I
Take My Chances - Mary Chapin Carpenter
- Beat
It - Michael Jackson
- Can't
Be Tamed, Liberty Walk & Every Rose Has
It's Thorn - Miley Cyrus
- Burn
It To The Ground & Never Again - Nickelback
- Pocketful
of Sunshine - Natasha Bedingfield
- Everybody
Got Their Something - Nikka Costa
- So
What, Trouble, Fuckin' Perfect & Mean -
Pink
- Hit
Me With Your Best Shot - Pat Benetar
- You're
Cheatin' Heart - Patsy Cline
- Blame
It On Your Heart - Patty Loveless
- The
Warrior - Patty Smyth
- Harden
My Heart - Quarterflash
- Under
Pressure- Queen & David Bowie
- Highway
To Hell & Mama Weer All Crazie Now - Quiet
Riot
- C'est
La Vie - Robbie Nevil
- None
of Your Business - Salt-N-Peppa
- A
Change Is Gonna Come - Sam Cooke
- Higher
Love - Steve Winwood
- Stop
Draggin' My Heart Around - Stevie Nicks
- Make
Me Wanna Die - The Pretty Reckless
- I
Wanna Be Sedated - The Ramones
- Unpretty
- TLC
- I'll
Be Over You - Toto
- Let's
Go - Trick Daddy
- TROUBLE
- Travis Tritt
- It's
Raining Men- The Weather Girls
- Here
I Go Again - Whitesnake
- I
Saw The Light - Wynonna
- Keep
Your Mind Wide Open - AnnaSophia Robb
- Grounds
for Divorce- Elbow
- After
My Divorce- Looker
- Ain't
Divorce Grand- Lisa Bell
Examples
of songs about divorce that are more about the
down side of it
and that may not be good for a party atmosphere
are-
- D.I.V.O.R.C.E.
- Dottie West, Tammy Wynette, Dolly Parton
- The
Day She Got Divorced- Reba McEntire
- Divorce
Court - The Five Du-Tones
Divorce Party Trends
Divorce Wedding Rings
Divorce rings have become a popular trend to signify
the end of a unhealthy relationship. Divorce rings
can have a break or groove in them; they are often
not a full circle. Many jewelers carry divorce
rings, which are also referred to as are transition
rings, unengagement rings and sometimes the fuck
you ring. Some people have their wedding ring
redesigned for this purpose and even wear it on
their middle finger. Divorce rings can offer comfort
to the wearer that they have made the right decision
for them and that they are committed to it. Some
worry that wearing a divorce ring will cause them
more grief. However, those that wear divorce rings
have said of wearing the rings that they are better
able to transition to their new lives and feel
that it is empowering.
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Divorce
Wedding Ring Caskets
Less popular than the divorce ring is the divorce wedding
ring casket which is also a new trend. This is literally
a mini casket that houses a wedding ring and can be
buried. The act of grieving a marriage and having a
funeral for it is something some people find healing
and the point of these products. There a a variety of
companies that make them and they can be found easily
online through search terms- wedding ring casket or
wedding ring coffin.
Have Fun With Divorce Parties
Most divorce parties are with all one sex and are similar
to bachelor or bachelorette parties in that they are
silly and wildly focused on sex. This is the most popular
way to celebrate a divorce and is great for letting
off some steam. Make sure to see some of the divorce
party suggestions that we have in regard to the mild
to the wild on our Divorce
Party Supplies page. No matter what the party should
have rejuvenating effect.
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